A little help please....if its ok...

[Dark Lady]

I ve got a problem at school...its kindof stupid realy....
There are these three girls. Theyre the popular ones you know? Well i dont have the best amount of confidance as it is..im usualy the quiet one around people i dont realy know...
But the past two weeks its gone right through the floor. Im usualy the optimistic and happy type. I dont get depressed easily but these girls are really getting me gown. V__V...
They dont bully exactly...i can deal with bullys no problem. Thheyre so sly though...theyre always looking over at me and laughing ans whispering...then thismorning they made a huge fuss about not standing next to me in assembaly...i looked like a total fool. They left a massive gap in between me and them and they were all pushing to not be the one next to me...
Its not a lot but it makes me feel like theres something realy wrong with me.
My friends said silly things like 'oh theyre just jellous that you can play bass guitar' yeah right! im not that stupid!that just makes me feel worse. I know theyre trying to help but im not that stupid.

Urah...i dunno what to do...its to pathetic to go to a teacher any theyle only be really b**chy if i confront then. Its making me feel like crut on the bottom of a shoe...i dont know what to do and i feel worse every day...
What do i do?!

xxx

[serenity]

maybe your getting too paranoid about it? i see girls round school like them all the time the ones that sneer and don't bully exactly but kind of make you feel uncomfortable.Its just their way of getting a kick out of something because they've got note better to do and your friends are kinda right because they do, do it because their jealous and normally want what you've got. I guess you've tried ignoring them? or try and see the funny side of it cuz their obviously really sad!! but don't get so down bout it!

[Orealisk]

you just really need to ignore them and move on, they'll only make it worse...if you feel it's a little too much, try thinking about just, whatever. Eventually you'll space out and forget they're there.

[BlackDragon21]

Thats just who they are... they find people to pick on just so thay can get a laugh out of some one elses expence, they like to see others suffer. But the way i see it is that thier opinions dont matter at all. becaus all they care about is impressing thier gorup and being 'popular' but the truth is in school popularity doenst do anyhting for you in life, or the 'real world' all lit does it makes you feel special... and you have friends for that, wich is way more important to have, friends who trust and care for eachother. As long as you have those kinds of friends, theres nothing wrong with you, and there is no reason to feel down about what the other 'populer' kids think because they dont matter! :3 that how i think about it and it works for me.
*hugs* Hope it can help you too ^.=.^

maybe your getting too paranoid about it? i see girls round school like them all the time the ones that sneer and don't bully exactly but kind of make you feel uncomfortable.Its just their way of getting a kick out of something because they've got note better to do and your friends are kinda right because they do, do it because their jealous and normally want what you've got. I guess you've tried ignoring them? or try and see the funny side of it cuz their obviously really sad!! but don't get so down bout it!
you just really need to ignore them and move on, they'll only make it worse...if you feel it's a little too much, try thinking about just, whatever. Eventually you'll space out and forget they're there.

I think that ignoring somehting like that is that it may work for a while, but ultimately you could build up a hatered inside you, and thats not really good, the way i see it is that you need to get the right mind set so it doent bother you and it doesent build up

[Haku]

ok total snob allert..in other words stay clear of them...there obviously just jelous little insects who can't handle someone else being happy for who they r instead of admiring the "popular ones" they rn't worth ur time...sympathy nor feelings..they r just being cruel because they can be...they r so not worth ur time...*hugs* girl u don't have to worry bout doing nything...just ignore them.,..if things get worse then go right ahead and tell someone...it can be ur parent if not a teacher or even a friend. plus they give the rest of us girls a bad reputation.

[Dragon spirit]

I agree with those who replied above, people like that aren't worth any time at all. Just find a way to think of something else when your around them and learn to ignore their lets say "little game" to pick on you being total pricks for any reason.
*hugs* your better than them, by heart and soul so don't let them get to you.

[DragonSeeker]

I have a big time different spin on this matter, being subject to too many bullies and such in my life. If it continues, slash the red tape and go straight to the principal. It's scares the living **** outta them and I garuentee that they'll leave you alone. Or you could also talk to their parents. I did that and it's stoped a few of em but most keep going. Big Man of the school is best bet...or you could also punch em in the face.

[BlackDragon21]

I have a big time different spin on this matter, being subject to too many bullies and such in my life. If it continues, slash the red tape and go straight to the principal. It's scares the living **** outta them and I garuentee that they'll leave you alone. Or you could also talk to their parents. I did that and it's stoped a few of em but most keep going. Big Man of the school is best bet...or you could also punch em in the face.

Yes thats also a posiblity, tho there is a chance it dont work, i knwo the kids in my school, the bullies, they dont care if they get intrubble wiht school but it doent hurt to try

[Ruberial Dragon]

I'm not a girl, sure, but methinks that Dark Lady has got into a spot of what it's like to be a female around the 21st century, y'know? I mean, I see women every day, and they have a similar problem or what have you. And they just get along with it. Seriously though.....they make that much of a fuss?

Well, what i'd do is i'd outsmart them myself. I'd take certain sentences as compliments, and the twirl around insults which girls are meant to be so good at....why don't you try those? I mean you can kinda take your differences as a good thing; see it as you're better than they could possibly be, and their jealous of that fact and want to discourage you from embracing it in any way, shape or form.

The only way you can beat them is...

1. Ignore the *swears rudely*
2. Twist their sentences into something good.
3. Accept yourself as unique, and tell yourself that they are pathetic.

Simple, right?

And, if that doesn't work, you've already been given the advice to talk to their parents. That works when nothing else does.....

[Haku]

I have a big time different spin on this matter, being subject to too many bullies and such in my life. If it continues, slash the red tape and go straight to the principal. It's scares the living **** outta them and I garuentee that they'll leave you alone. Or you could also talk to their parents. I did that and it's stoped a few of em but most keep going. Big Man of the school is best bet...or you could also punch em in the face.

ok great idea bout the principle but i would suggest avoiding the punching and violence

[Dark Lady]

Oh thankyou every one!!

Serenity: maybe your getting too paranoid about it?
oh well not realy. i know that theyre picking on me. Totaly sure of that. I know when its paranoya.

Ori: you just really need to ignore them and move on
I'd love to do that but its not going to go away anytime soon. I can ignore boys no problem but when you get sly chavy girls, not so easy.

Black: becaus all they care about is impressing thier gorup and being 'popular'
Yeah they do..theyre the top of the class and the prettyest girls. They think they rule the flippin schol. ><

Haku: girl u don't have to worry bout doing nything...just ignore them.,..if things get worse then go right ahead and tell someone...it can be ur parent if not a teacher or even a friend. plus they give the rest of us girls a bad reputation.
Seeker: If it continues, slash the red tape and go straight to the principal.
Im thinking of doing that. They did something realy stupid today. I was writing notes back and forth to them asking what their problem was and they said that i was pathetic and an emo wierdo etc etc (im an optamistic hippy who likes music and climbs trees! emo? NO!) But at the end of the lesson i kept the letter...*evil grin* so now i have proof! my friend Heledd sugested i do that.She said when i have enough stuff i can grass them in for good.

Rubes: The only way you can beat them is...

1. Ignore the *swears rudely*
2. Twist their sentences into something good.
3. Accept yourself as unique, and tell yourself that they are pathetic.
lol..point one = tryed it. doesnt go away.
id point 2 = love to do that but my consience says id be sinking to their level.
Point 3= i try to. every one is an individual...its good advice. thanks.

Corry: Just find a way to think of something else when your around them and learn to ignore their lets say "little game" to pick on you being total pricks for any reason.
your better than them, by heart and soul so don't let them get to you
lol thanks Corry tht makes me feel a lot better.^^ well the whole ignoring thing doesnt work v-wel with girls...they dont go away v-easily.


Thanks for the help so far everyone! i realy apreciate all your help! Youve all given wonderful advice. *hugs everyone* Youre such great friends./people and dragons XD

[BlackDragon21]

ok great idea bout the principle but i would suggest avoiding the punching and violence

yes, i didnt notice that last part. I dont think fighting them, physicaly, wil solve anything, it can just make it a whole lot worse

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Yeah they do..theyre the top of the class and the prettyest girls. They think they rule the flippin schol. ><

Thats just an opinion, to some one else they can be the most ugly people they ever saw, and what they say to you , if its not jelousy or just trying to be a arse tard, is thier opinion. What they think is not what evryone else thinks, you know who you are and you know that your not who they think you are.

[Dragon spirit]

Actually have electronics kept minds focused on other things than irritating people, i am speaking of mp3's
Music is a great tool to help you ignore childish comments from people who seem to dislike you.

Once was I a victim of being bullied yet most of the time did i keep my mind focused on music or other things than getting hurt by small ignorant comments or whispers around you. In the end I just stopped to care or respond to them.

How things got solved in my case is that the bullies got bored with speaking to a wall(aka a guy that simply isn't listening or caring )

[Dark Lady]

Have you ever been b**ched at by a chav girl Corry?...i hope you havent. V__V
Theyre the worst. Boys are rather nasty but girls are extreamly sly. boys hurt more phisicly.but girls take things slowly and use verbal abuse. its like a game of chess....but atm im the one on check ^^

[Haku]

alright go DL...were here for u ropoting all the way ;)

[Dark Lady]

thanks haku!
thankyou for the support and advice! ^^
ill keep ya posted..

[Dragon spirit]

Have you ever been b**ched at by a chav girl Corry?...i hope you havent. V__V
Theyre the worst. Boys are rather nasty but girls are extreamly sly. boys hurt more phisicly.but girls take things slowly and use verbal abuse. its like a game of chess....but atm im the one on check ^^

Well a large mob of guys picking the s.h.i.t out of me when i was in a wheelchair is kinda annoying too ^^" *hugs tight* i'm sorry if i'm not helping out that much DL.

[Ramoth]

I think in the 7 month that you have been on ED I have come to know you as a very positive, generally happy, talented in music and art, fun loving, kind hearted, beautiful person. These girls also see these wonderful things about you and are jealous. To be popular is a lot of acting, something that they are not really who the seem to be on the inside. If they were confident with who they truely are they would not have to make others feel bad.
Yes, this type of thing can be hurtful, but remember you are and always will be just as good as anybody else. Your goodness is genuine, and shines from you. You are a light, and light attracks bugs. And it seems these bugs popularity is based on the pain of others.
You could look at it as you have beautiful strengths and you need to hold your head high and ignore their pitiful childish acts.
Be happy that the popular girls give you notice, you must be doing something worthy that they should pay attention to you.
Good luck and I hope things work out.

[E Drago Pazzo]

As many of you know, I enjoy syudying human behavior :D (yes I'll admit, I'm kind of bragging about it at this point, but this will still help Dark Lady) and my understanding is that girls are evil to eachother. They won't stop if you ignore them and I can tell by your description (correct me if I'm wrong) Either way; the human brain in many ways returns to ape clan behavior when it comes to dominance and deprecation. The point is that these girld are popular and they are trying to further prove to those around them that they are the alpha females. My suggestion? ASERT YOURSELF! They are trying to use you as an example of their powers against their "underlings" by depricating you. If you play a mental game with them and scream in their faces a bit then you will prove to them that no one should *&#@ around with you. Even if they think you couldn't or claim you aren't doing the same to them as they did to you, they will have a greater level of respect for you, even if they respect you as an enemy. If they give you war, don't return the war, be deceptive and read their lies if they have any. If they launch large amounts of fire at you with no resolve or effect, they will look foolish and quit. DON'T FALL INTO TRICKS IF IT BECOMES WAR! or they will worsen the situation; you must see through their every move or at least the big ones. Don't accept friendship to them. If you have friends willing to join you in the war, let the ,the more the merrier, but before war, your mental agressivness must be performed singularly, to proove to them your guts. If it comes to it, suck it up, the principal scares popular people doing such things because they know that the principal has more power over them than anyone in the school.
By using similiar methods converted for my own, uses, I haven't had a bully or anyone like that since my first. My first gave me an understanding of the human brain and was the ultimate push to make me learn to learn to exploit it as if they were pack rats.
P.S. Don't do anything that you could get into trouble for, you need to place yourself above such actions and leave them to do them because if they do, whether you report them or not they could easily be found and the government will work against them. If you do, do things that are against the rules, then they might report you.

[Ruberial Dragon]

Erm.......
Can you put that into "Not Nerd" language please?

Seriously though, that's good advice.

[Dark Lady]

oh sorry Corry! i sounded kinda rude back there! didnt mean to! sorry!!!! Shrp tounge see...^^" *hugs*

oh thankyou Ramoth!thats such a nice thing to say! thankyou!!!!!!!!! ^^

oh heh...thanks for the advice Draggo!..slightly..er..nevermind..annnnyway! thanks for it! its good advice yeah. agreed with rubes on that one.

[E Drago Pazzo]

Sorry for the nerd speech.

[RedDragon5]

Erm.......
Can you put that into "Not Nerd" language please?

Seriously though, that's good advice.Donut...you be nice. :P

EDP: Don't apalogize. Who cares if it sounds nerdy or whatever, it's good advice and you didn't do anything wrong so you don't need to apalogize.
Don't let rub's comment make you feel bad.

[BlackDragon21]

I CAN UNDERSTAND IT !

Yay NERD POWER! lol,

but really you dont need to apologize for that :P, nothing wrong being your self ^.=.^

[Dark Lady]

no no! i didnt mean i agreed with the nerd thingy! oh for flip sake im gonna have to write exactly what i mean in future v__v
i mean i agreed with rubes on the advice. it was kinda kewl ^^
its an interesting way of looking at things, and i hink its probly a really good way to. OH the guilt is mounting!!!!!! lol dont apologize pazo. theres nothing wrong with being yourself! *hugs* being yourself is the best thing you can be. dont apologize for being an individual!

[happyslashes]

I know where you are coming from dark, most people hate me around school just because I wear a lot of black and my mum is a weirdo, but what you have to remember is that they are just probally scared of what they don't understand.
popular people always have to belittle other people so that they feel less insecure, just stay close to your friends and they'll probally get bored soon.

[Rez3]

Good advice Slashes.

[happyslashes]

And remember us at draconian are always here for you! =)

[serenity]

yay!! we're here to help!! lets stamp out those evil bullies!! popularity gets you nowhere and thats all they want anything to get attention!! maybe if they accidently fell off a cliff they might get attention accidentally ofcourse...

[liberatedragon]

I've had trouble with people picking on me for being really quiet at school as well. I got help by talking about it I also had a counselor help too. But my problem is that I held in all of my feelings, I began to hate them and this is no lie I even wanted to kill them. Because I never expressed my feelings. I told my mom about the wanting to kill them, and she said that's how most of the quiet kids are, that they are the ones who murder and such, which kind of freaked me out. >.=.> But i knew right from wrong, I never did anything drastic. :)

[E Drago Pazzo]

Yeah, follow Happyslahses suggestion, it's less convoluted and scientific and will probably work anyways. Might I add this to what Happyslashes said though, don't look or speak to them when they say something to you, no matter what.
P.S. I'm sorry for apologizing :)

[Ruberial Dragon]

ill agree the EDP there, scientific explanations get too confusing. Sometimes you just need that little bit of "umph!"

P.S EDP, what I said was sarcastic, soz :stare:

[E Drago Pazzo]

k, sry
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[SkySong]

Lady...just remember, you don't have to take any **** from these people. They aint worth it.

I can tell you now, with absoloute confidence that it's them who have the problem. They ARE jealous and insecure. It sounds so cliche, but its true.
They only do this to draw attention to themselves, and the only way to do this is to degrade someone else, because they have NO good points.

Theres a few ways to fix this:
1) Go to a teacher. Unfortunatly, this doesn't always work, it can often cause me problems than it solves
2) Ignore the fuc****. Even that is more than they deserve
3) Just stick close to your friends for a while, and avoid these idiots
4) You can get violent, but it doesnt exactly help.
5) Let them know where you stand. Everytime they say something stupid, turn it back on them, but don't make a huge fuss of it. Just a quick snappy retort to let them know to back off. For example, if they say " I don't want to stand next to her." Brush it off with something like "Thats good, 'cause I don't even wanna be in a 10 mile radius of you."
But don't take it overboard.

Good luck. These girls are idiots, and your better than them, and there is nothing wrong with you at all. You are beautiful, inside and out, and you shouldn't have to deal with these immature idiots.

[Ruberial Dragon]

Lol that's pretty much what I said, just with a few less words. And 2 more suggestions. Or something. :insane: